Changing a man

Well, S - I have to say, your friend (and all of us women who do this to ourselves) deserve what we get! I mean, if we keep going back to the cheating men and we know how our friends disapprove, then it's our own faults, no?

I went back to my cheating boyfriend years ago. He slept with other women, and I wouldn't speak to him for 2 years. Four years after the incident and the break-up, he came back to me and I took him back. Why? Well, because I thought he'd changed. One thing we all tell ourselves is that men can change. However, incident after incident teaches us that it just doesn't happen --- throughout time we've learned that men just don't change.

Henry the VIII had six wives, and all of them were afraid for their lives because he had divorced his most loyal first wife, and killed the second. Yet every single one of the subsequent wives thought, "I'll be the one. I'll be the one to change him, and he'll be my husband and king forever."

We think maybe it'll be like in the movies, all of a sudden Robin Williams learns responsibility like in Mrs. Doubtfire, or there is a moment of realization like in Harry Met Sally, but seriously ladies- let's all learn to be honest with ourselves. We deserve everything we get because we know it's not possible but we think he'll learn to be on time, I'll be the one to tame the player, teach him not to drink as much, teach him to pick up after himself, maybe even get him to go to church once in a while. He's always going to drink, if he's a player now he'll be a player later, he will never pick up after himself, and he most definitely won't learn to be on time.

I've recently had this inclination to get in touch with this guy from 4th grade who used to since a song "I pick my nose and I eat it..." just to see if he had changed. I really doubt it...

-M